It’s no real secret what women want although by the apparent lack of satisfaction a lot of women express in finding a mate, you would think its the biggest secret in the world??? Women have different needs in finding a partner at different stages/ages in their lives. Of course every woman is different and therefore each has individual values in finding a partner for the whole life. Astrology can shine light in both these areas – firstly by identifying stages/ages in a woman’s mating preferences. Also secondly identifying a woman’s individual values/preferences during her whole life.

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most people are looking for a perfect match, in business or love, in spite of the fact that we all know that perfection doesn’t really exist.  To start with we are not perfect as individuals, yet some of us expect to find ‘perfect’ in a partner?  And some of us have given up not willing to settle for imperfect?  Try the polls below & let me know your position on this question.

The word perfect is from the Latin perfectus meaning “completed”. It implies that it would be all over if we found a perfect match anyway.

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security is usually an issue in any relationship, whether we base everything on that goal or whether we don’t care about it all.  It is difficult to match a couple with the same attitude towards security and this can prove to create difficulties down the line.

When I was young I read Alan Watt’s book ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’ which was a brilliant read!  Alan wrote: ‘What we have forgotten is that thoughts and words are conventions, and that it is fatal to take conventions too seriously.’  Maybe I should stop writing now, while I’m, ahead???

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are we better or worse if we stay in relationships or marriages, for ‘better or worse’? The great benefit about commitment to another person, is that we feel safe enough to expose more vulnerable aspects of ourselves. This benefits a couple because that allows for more intimacy between the two people. That is the heart of a good relationship!

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I am fascinated with the shift when we meet people for real, with whom we originally connected with virtually. By virtual, I include the phone along with the web. Of course this is what the online dating sites have been struggling with for years – how to make that shift less traumatic and disappointing? I have found from past experiences myself, that a lot of interest and excitement can be generated in connecting with certain people online and on the phone. However when we meet, there is a shift to another level that has not been addressed virtually. Of course the odds are stacked against these levels matching the real, live experience of another or at the very least, offering real potential of connection. If virtual operates through the mind, then we have a lot to catch up with on other levels, when we meeting for real. Often real-ationships have to be reworked from the virtual or in some cases abandoned altogether.

The word virtual used to mean “influencing by physical virtues or capabilities,” from M.L. virtualis, from L. virtus “excellence, potency, efficacy,” lit. “manliness, manhood”. The meaning of “being something in essence or fact, though not in name” is first recorded 1654, probably via sense of “capable of producing a certain effect” (1432). Computer sense of “not physically existing but made to appear by software” is attested from 1959.
The word real however seems to have always meant “relating to things” (esp. property), from O.Fr. reel, from L.L. realisres “matter, thing,” of unknown origin. Meaning “genuine” is recorded from 1559; that of “actually existing” is attested from 1597; sense of “unaffected, no-nonsense” is from 1847. “actual,” from L.

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