I saw a great movie this week; it was ‘Shop Girl’ with Steve Martin. It was brilliant and showed extreme examples of emotional distance and intimacy.

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I have a rather unusual take on loneliness. I find it precious and encourage people to form a relationship with their experience of loneliness. This guarantees that we don’t throw our loneliness at partners or potential partners & expect them to look after it or entertain us to distract us from it. This is the sure way to scare anyone off, even someone who really cares about us. Loneliness comes out of time spent alone; this can be short periods or longer periods. The point where it becomes loneliness is different for all of us. Some of us need large amounts of time alone and smaller in company with others. Others like less time alone, maybe no time at all. Then there are times in our lives when we need more time alone due to circumstances and also other times less time due to other circumstances.

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I have radical opinions and solutions to bullying, so please do not read any further unless you want to feel a little rattled in your concepts and ideas.

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I sometimes wonder if anyone ever really knows another person? We are all such complex diamonds with so… many faces. We may show one or a few faces to each person but it is hard to show all to one person. It sometimes takes a lifetime to see our own faces, let alone another’s. Maybe it is just in our private moments that we really appear in a pure unadulterated state?

Starry starry night

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