generation gap

each generation faces the next over what seems a huge gulf of differences – the generation gap! So that this doesn’t become a stand off, it is important to understand what is on the other side. At times it may seem that we almost need a handy rope bridge of openness & willingness to learn from each other to move across what at times can seem like a widening gap. The biggest gap is of course when adults & teenagers & children meet. This means we also need to take the generation configurations into account when matchmaking to ensure ease for a couple. We can look at the generational planets which help to clarify the general environment and therefore the focus & goals of each generation.

‘To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am.‘ Bernard M. Baruch

There are three broad generations to be aware of on when matchmaking:

1. The World War II Generation born before 1946. Pluto was in Cancer and this made for a generation that were intensely focused on family & home & country. This generation also saw huge transformations in family & home as their children, the Baby Boomers, grew up.
2. The Baby Boomers born between 1946 & 1964. Pluto was in Leo and this made for a ‘me’ generation who were extremely idealistic, as Neptune & Saturn were in Libra. This generation upturned their parents ideals of family & home as Uranus also went through Cancer. They were also pathfinders in different forms of consciousness changes.
3. Generation X born between 1965 & 1977. Pluto was in Virgo and this has made a generation who have upturned work. During this period Pluto also conjuncted Uranus and they are extremely community oriented. They are innovative and are willing to bust apart old structures that are no longer a positive force for society. Work & productivity has become a large focus and individuals are encouraged to leverage their individuality within the group. This generation now that they are mature has a ruthless drive to achieve their goals that has been aided by the speed & amount of information that is available through new technology.

‘I’m seventeen and I’m crazy. My uncle says the two always go together. When people ask your age, he said, always say seventeen and insane.‘ Ray Bradbury

Generally when matching couples, it is easier to make sure that they come from the same generation to ensure a good match. This immediately facilitates communication & understanding as both partners have the same background & developed in the same world wide environment. However in individual cases there may be similarities in modes of operating, even though from different generations & different backgrounds. Of course there are always individuals who are able to bridge generations due to their own personal gifts of awareness and understanding.

‘Another belief of mine: that everyone else my age is an adult, whereas I am merely in disguise.’ Margaret Atwood

Women also may tend to manifest the generational influence a little differently than men of the same generation. As a result if matching a couple of different generations, identifying from which generation the male (or more active partner) & which generation the female (or more receptive partner) also helps to determine whether there will be challenges to the relationship due to the ground that the individuals spring from.

‘At the age of eleven or thereabouts women acquire a poise and an ability to handle difficult situations which a man, if he is lucky, manages to achieve somewhere in the later seventies.’ P. G. Wodehouse

Some individuals are by their own personal configuration are very flexible, adaptable & open minded and they too may find it easier to match with individuals of different generations. Just as some individuals from the same generation may not be suited for matching due to personal configurations. So this part of matching needs to be addressed alongside personal attributes that will work well & easily with a partner.

‘Remember that as a teenager you are at the last stage of your life when you will be happy to hear that the phone is for you.’ Fran Lebowitz

We now have quick & easy ways to match with others from all over the world via the internet & new technologies. Internet dating & social networks increase the possibilities and matchmaking systems or assessments can reduce the work that used to be part of the sifting & sorting process of matching a perfect mate.

‘The most overlooked advantage to owning a computer is that if they foul up there’s no law against whacking them around a little.’ Joe Martin



‘I think on-stage nudity is disgusting, shameful and damaging to all things American. But if I were 22 with a great body, it would be artistic, tasteful, patriotic and a progressive religious experience.‘ Shelley Winters

Here’s a great video from French & Saunders about the generation gap. Enjoy sweetie darlings………