I came across this brilliant TED talk by Renny Gleeson a few weeks back and it made me very thoughtful about how our social environment has changed over the years. Due to technology & social networks many of us are no longer inside our relationships but outside looking in. No doubt this would have occurred in the past but now technology & the environment support us in viewing/sharing our relationships rather than enjoying & participating in them. Check out Renny’s talk & let me know in the comments how you feel about his perspective. Its funny & enjoyable to watch whilst making a statement about our technological social life.

Maybe we are living the geek’s version of being social and in relationship?  As you know a high percentage of geeks are intraverted????  So we may now be living an introverted extroversion????  See an old post of mine that was published in the book Blog08 extrovert and introvert matches.

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living together successfully can either be a wonderful learning & sharing experience or a real test for any couple. Unfortunately the latter has the higher percentage of entrants in the couple stakes. There are several components to the question how to live together successfully?

“That married couples can live together day after day is a miracle the Vatican has overlooked.” Bill Cosby

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how close is too close for comfort for you? We all have different requirements when it comes to how close we want to be to others. There is a cultural component to this, as different nationalities generally require different physical space between themselves & others.  Australians like myself have the biggest requirement for space between self & others, understandably as we are a small population in a very large country. The US follows Oz & also like to have lots of space between themselves & others physically. However when I moved to Europe years ago, I was struck at how much closer people are comfortable with others. Asia of course is similar as these areas in the world are where many people are located in smaller areas.

‘Kissing is a means of getting two people so close together that they can’t see anything wrong with each other.‘ Rene Yasenek

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The planet Venus appears to be going backwards in the sky starting on 28th July, 2007 and turning direct again on 9th September, 2007.

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I am fascinated with the shift when we meet people for real, with whom we originally connected with virtually. By virtual, I include the phone along with the web. Of course this is what the online dating sites have been struggling with for years – how to make that shift less traumatic and disappointing? I have found from past experiences myself, that a lot of interest and excitement can be generated in connecting with certain people online and on the phone. However when we meet, there is a shift to another level that has not been addressed virtually. Of course the odds are stacked against these levels matching the real, live experience of another or at the very least, offering real potential of connection. If virtual operates through the mind, then we have a lot to catch up with on other levels, when we meeting for real. Often real-ationships have to be reworked from the virtual or in some cases abandoned altogether.

The word virtual used to mean “influencing by physical virtues or capabilities,” from M.L. virtualis, from L. virtus “excellence, potency, efficacy,” lit. “manliness, manhood”. The meaning of “being something in essence or fact, though not in name” is first recorded 1654, probably via sense of “capable of producing a certain effect” (1432). Computer sense of “not physically existing but made to appear by software” is attested from 1959.
The word real however seems to have always meant “relating to things” (esp. property), from O.Fr. reel, from L.L. realisres “matter, thing,” of unknown origin. Meaning “genuine” is recorded from 1559; that of “actually existing” is attested from 1597; sense of “unaffected, no-nonsense” is from 1847. “actual,” from L.

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