imagine if how we act online became offline in our relationships. Scary heh?
If we acted like we do on facebook or twitter in real life, it would be pretty crazy.
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a study in Texas has decided that social media is making us more social. Who would have knew? Good news for facebook, I think, because their privacy issues & ownership of our data still give me great concern. However social networks do provide a great platform for us to keep in touch with friends & family, no matter where they are in the world! It seems everyone likes to complete their relationship status, as per the pie chart below:
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it seems that we are such social animals now that even breaking up & divorce is catching too in social networks, not just loneliness! I read about some recent research that suggest that when your friends or family split that it gives others confidence to do it too. I gather & would hope that would only be if the expiration date on the relationship/marriage had come due or was overdue. Nothing stays the same & people & relationships change over time and it is unrealistic to think that two people will stay together FOREVER. Some do that’s true & it is brilliant that they are able to integrate their love with their personal development & evolvement. But for the rest of us it seems we have to be ready to roll with the fast pace of life & intense pressures that we face in modern life. Every individual ultimately will move & grow in the direction that they choose and we cannot limit or manipulate a partner’s path by demanding that they do what we want or go our way! Ultimately that will come back & hit you in the face, control & manipulation of another never really work to anyone’s benefit in my experience.
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relationships need to have a value on individual freedom & choice to flourish & grow & so do communities. Privacy is not bad in relationships, if based on choice. I love the net, but recently was disappointed to find that some of the big companies are trying to demolish privacy. The word ‘private’ comes from the late 14c Latin privatus “set apart, belonging to oneself” (not to the state), used in contrast to publicus, communis. There seems to be a risk that these companies are brainwashing us into thinking that privacy is no longer needed as a result of social media but surely we are smarter than that? Is this really not a ploy to turn the tide in their favor so that they can have more power & make more money (not that any of the culprits really need to have any more power or money than they have already?)
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as mentioned in past posts we all have different values in relationships & its important to identify our highest value & ensure that our close personal relationships can provide us with what we need. For me I think the major value in a relationship is friendship. I’m a boomer & loved being part of a group of friends at high school & remember my mother who it could be said never had a close friend whilst I was growing up, said to me ‘You love your friends more than you love your family!’ It may have been true and friends & my community of friends (although spread across the world now, having lived on a few continents) are still extremely important to me.
“Friendship is always a sweet responsibilty, never an opportunity.” Kahil Gibran
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