Having another person involved in a relationship in any capacity immediately changes the dynamic between two people. This can be a positive experience or it can shatter a couple’s trust, depending upon the attitude of the individuals involved. Some of the possibilities are:

• When a relationship’s energy or good feelings are dumbed down by time & habit, one or both parties may venture outside the relationship & have an affair with another

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A friend gave me a copy of ‘Why Men Love Bitches’ to read this week. It is a great book for WOMEN! It propounds, in its own way, my own belief that women have better relationships with men when they develop themselves and become confident and assured in their own lives. Women are very interested in bettering their relationships and often have read, studied and spoken with other women about relationships with men frequently in their lives. It’s sort of like preaching to the converted!

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having never looked like Barbie, I always wondered what it would be like to be known as a ‘beauty’. It seems that most of the standards we have about beauty are hard calls for most of us, but we keep trying, no matter how sane we are???? What is that about??? When I was at high school, I was chosen to be best friends with the most popular & generally acclaimed ‘beautiful’ girl. She was renown at our school because she had even done a few ads for TV. And I figured that I must have been no competition for her, so pretty safe, cause I was what my mother termed an ‘ugly duckling’! I guess I listened to all her exploits cause I didn’t have any & I gained a side popularity with all the boys, cause they wanted to know stuff about her. We had a bit of a bust up before we finished high school because she got pregnant & had an abortion, all without telling me. She said later that I was too naive & couldn’t have taken it! Needless to say we never really patched the friendship up again, as I got to finally see how I looked through her eyes & that she had been having a friendship with me but watching what she told me – it doesn’t breed a lot of trust, at least from my side! I like the one liner below, it says a lot!

‘If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy her friends?’ Stephen Wright

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how can we be ourselves and still enjoy successful relationships? One of the biggest issues I have found is that we need to define our boundaries in relationships. The dictionary meaning of the word boundary is ‘something that indicates a border or limit’. Everything in nature is defined by a boundary and this keeps entities intact, true to their integrity and able to function as they were meant. The smallest cell is an example of this process.

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