further to my post last on what a woman wants, I would like to explore the changing seasons or stages in a woman’s life and how that generally affects what she wants in her relationship with man.  I add the disclaimer that this is a generalization and that each woman is an individual and therefore ultimately subject to her own preferences.

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PlentyofFish.com has two assessments to support better relationships for their members. The initial assessment is a Chemistry Predictor & then you can complete a Needs Assessment. PlentyofFish is a free site created by Markus Frind and these assessments are also free.

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security is usually an issue in any relationship, whether we base everything on that goal or whether we don’t care about it all.  It is difficult to match a couple with the same attitude towards security and this can prove to create difficulties down the line.

When I was young I read Alan Watt’s book ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’ which was a brilliant read!  Alan wrote: ‘What we have forgotten is that thoughts and words are conventions, and that it is fatal to take conventions too seriously.’  Maybe I should stop writing now, while I’m, ahead???

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living together successfully can either be a wonderful learning & sharing experience or a real test for any couple. Unfortunately the latter has the higher percentage of entrants in the couple stakes. There are several components to the question how to live together successfully?

“That married couples can live together day after day is a miracle the Vatican has overlooked.” Bill Cosby

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I have a rather unusual take on loneliness. I find it precious and encourage people to form a relationship with their experience of loneliness. This guarantees that we don’t throw our loneliness at partners or potential partners & expect them to look after it or entertain us to distract us from it. This is the sure way to scare anyone off, even someone who really cares about us. Loneliness comes out of time spent alone; this can be short periods or longer periods. The point where it becomes loneliness is different for all of us. Some of us need large amounts of time alone and smaller in company with others. Others like less time alone, maybe no time at all. Then there are times in our lives when we need more time alone due to circumstances and also other times less time due to other circumstances.

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