security is usually an issue in any relationship, whether we base everything on that goal or whether we don’t care about it all.  It is difficult to match a couple with the same attitude towards security and this can prove to create difficulties down the line.

When I was young I read Alan Watt’s book ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’ which was a brilliant read!  Alan wrote: ‘What we have forgotten is that thoughts and words are conventions, and that it is fatal to take conventions too seriously.’  Maybe I should stop writing now, while I’m, ahead???

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success means different things for different people and it is great if both partners in a relationship have similar definitions. The word success meaning “result, outcome,” comes from the Latin successus ‘an advance, succession, happy outcome’. The combined effort of more than one person, can certainly contribute to easier, more sustained success than one person solo. Success can be very tangible & solid or it can be much more subtle depending on the type of success that is desired. There are four main categories of success are:

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We all experience the world through different lenses and therefore express ourselves in different ways. We express ourselves through our hearts, through what we are passionate about and everything we love to do. Hopefully the vehicle is career and our creative pursuits. We can even express ourselves through the joy of having children. Self expression is important for everyone’s happiness and contentment in life and in relationships. It comes from the very core of our being. Therefore when matching couples it is necessary to make sure that each person can express themselves. There are four general types of categories in how we express ourselves.

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When matchmaking, one of the major issues that needs to be addressed between two people is how comfortable they feel with each other. This is particularly crucial if the relationship may progress towards a live in setup. When sharing the same living space lack of comfort for either person can result in troubles within the relationship. When we are at home, we need to be able to feel comfortable and relaxed. It is a basic need and is the foundation for everything else in our lives. People have 4 basic different types of comfort needs and most of us would relate to one of these, at least generally.

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we all know the feeling when we have a wonderful ‘in the flow’ conversation or brainstorming with another. It’s a rush & often we take some great ideas or inspirations away to ponder or change our lives! So what does it take for a meeting of minds? Firstly we do not all think in the same way & even though thoughts are the end result for everyone, there are different sources of those thoughts.

There are 4 types of thinkers:

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