there are a few scientific studies that have linked the brain with love and attachment & so it seems that the heart is not the only organ involved in your relationships.  I’ve been helping a friend Giorgio Ungani to organize TEDx Dubai and have now developed an overactive interest in the mind & brain as a side effect.  So I thought I’d list some of the studies results in this post.  If you are interested in helping out please follow on Twitter @tedxdubai or post a short video on 12secondstv or else contact Giorgio with your ideas.

“The brain is the only part of the human machine that doesn’t wear out. Probably it’s because the brain is the only part that is not overworked.” Unknown

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There is a simple rule in relationships which is that at any given moment you can choose between love or power.  Being human its impossible to be perfect (don’t you hate that?) and so impossible to come consistently from either.  However our values will dictate which side we will try to veer towards as much as possible.

“Where love rules, there is no will to power; where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.” Carl Jung

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how close is too close for comfort for you? We all have different requirements when it comes to how close we want to be to others. There is a cultural component to this, as different nationalities generally require different physical space between themselves & others.  Australians like myself have the biggest requirement for space between self & others, understandably as we are a small population in a very large country. The US follows Oz & also like to have lots of space between themselves & others physically. However when I moved to Europe years ago, I was struck at how much closer people are comfortable with others. Asia of course is similar as these areas in the world are where many people are located in smaller areas.

‘Kissing is a means of getting two people so close together that they can’t see anything wrong with each other.‘ Rene Yasenek

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sex sells, so they say. I’m not sure about that although most ad agencies would probably disagree! It certainly makes the world go around as it guarantees that most species on the planet will be perpetuated. In relationships it also provides us humans with an intense level of intimacy, release of pent up energy and a source of lotsa fun! However we all express our sexuality in different ways and have different needs in that area.

There are four broad categories in sexual expression and needs which are as follows:

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When matchmaking, one of the major issues that needs to be addressed between two people is how comfortable they feel with each other. This is particularly crucial if the relationship may progress towards a live in setup. When sharing the same living space lack of comfort for either person can result in troubles within the relationship. When we are at home, we need to be able to feel comfortable and relaxed. It is a basic need and is the foundation for everything else in our lives. People have 4 basic different types of comfort needs and most of us would relate to one of these, at least generally.

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