my matching algorithm consists of similar & opposite qualities, because after all opposite is where the chemistry, the glue so to speak, in a relationship exists.  I read an interesting post this week where a scientist from a fertility clinic (trying to sell an iphone app?) claimed that eharmony matching threatens human survival as their matching principle is similar.  Apparently this has implications for human evolution.

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dancing has always been a favorite activity of mine, such great exercise & such a great way to get your heart energy flowing to great music with great people.  A new study has now discovered that through the correct body movement we can attract or NOT a potential partner.  Despite the fact that my teenage kids always made fun of me at our parties, I had a ball surrendering to the spirit of dance.  I know they also let themselves go & stopped mimicing their mother when the gay boys would have them line up for a little of that good ol’ Line Dancing.  Hysterical!  But no I had never realized the impact we could have all been making then??

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can data really identify our soul mate?  Can the essence of a good relationship be brought down to a numbers game?  Can we predict who will match with who?  These questions are currently the  core of the online dating industry & to date there are no clear conclusions.  I came across a few articles this week that deal with this issue.

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Carl Jung postulated the theory that our ‘other half’ dwells within us and that we look for that in the outer world when we have relationships with others. We project this ‘other half’ onto others but obviously our partners have to have some ‘hooks’ for our projections. When we find a good match for ourselves then this usually indicates that the ‘other’ more closely resembles our ‘other half’. If we have done a reasonable amount of work of self individuation, we can also see the ‘real person’ shining through our own projections. Our ‘other half’ exists within the psyche to trigger experiences that the Self can use to become whole or individuate. For online dating companies finding this secret in a formula or a data bank provides the key to becoming successful at matching couples. Although by the look of most of these sites, this is yet to be achieved successfully. What escapes them is the ‘human factor’ and this mystery which makes itself hard to be drilled down to a formula or databank probability.

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Have you ever had the experience of chatting or emailing a possible date online who seemed full of potential and find that when you meet for the first time that they are not all they appeared to be when flirting virtually.   Recently I was reading a Makeuseof.com post about How to Read & Interpret Body Language which got me to thinking about how that translates online to our virtual body language.  Online dating & social networks rely to a large degree on virtual body language and this of course is where some issues arise when finding a partner online.

“Get in touch with the way the other person feels. Feelings are 55% body language, 38% tone and 7% words.” Professor Albert Mehrabian

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