a new study was published recently saying that one in five adults are in love with someone other than their partner.   Are so…many people are not fulfilled in their current relationship that they must find satisfaction with another partner?  Are they not committed enough to their current partner?  Or were they not selective enough when they initially got together?  Or have they changed so much whilst they have been in the relationship that their partner no longer fits as they did at the start?  This is amazing to me as I have preferred my own company to a relationship with anyone who is not a good match and whom I did not love.  Obviously I have been living in the dark, like a mushroom???

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I love the magic of social media and virtual friends but nothing beats real life hugs from live friends to promote comfort & joy.  There is nothing better when stressed or ill than a professional massage or even a bit of a rub from someone who cares.  This equals the magic & healing power of touch.

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Blog Action Day, in aid of Poverty, today, so I am writing about Poverty Consciousness.  The seed of everything in our lives begins in our minds. The antidote for Poverty Consciousness is Prosperity Consciousness.

‘The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results.’ Norman Vincent Peale

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how competitive are you in a partnership?  This is an important issue for matching couples because we all have individual requirements for outlet of the competitive urge in intimate relationships.  It’s OK to express unbridled competition in business and work relationships, although even there too much competition can destroy any trust or teamwork in a business or organization.  The Beijing Olympic Games made me think of about competitiveness where it serves the athletes and how it serves us or not in the sphere of relationships.

“Focus on competition has always been a formula for mediocrity.” Daniel Burrus

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unfortunately some people exude toxicity i.e., negativity in huge buckets (my interpretation) and sometimes when we are with them we can pick up leakage or spillage, deliberate or not. Toxic is an interesting word & basically means poison originally from Latin ‘toxicus’ and has something to do with the poison used on arrows. (This brings the image of the penetration value of some toxic people!) If we care about someone and want to be with them or see them, then that negative poison seeps through the permeable membrane that exists between us. Our borders are down with someone we care about & so this negativity can affect us. I unwittingly fell victim to this during the week and it took me a few days to come back to myself. I guess unwittingly was the operative word, as if I had been rational I would have not ventured to this meeting.

“I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.” David Bissonette

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