intimate is not just women’s underwear, it is the subtle foundation of any good relationship. The word intimate is defined in the dictionary as pertaining to the inmost character of a thing; fundamental. The word comes from the Latin intimatus “make known, announce, impress,” and intimus “inmost”. It all sounds pretty intense doesn’t it but also so… attractive to be seen by another & accepted, let alone loved! Before moving on from the intimate apparel theme, thought you might enjoy this great photo from Flickr.

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we all have different development as regards our brains and this can strongly affect how we relate and who we relate with.  It is helpful to understand & know our own leaning or orientation and what parts of the brain we may need to develop. It is often the undeveloped that we may be attracted to in others but it is important that we try to develop this so we can see all sides of the picture (or should I say brain?)

Let’s have a bit of fun so check out this picture and identify which way the girl is moving, then look again to see if changes?  Check out this link to find out whether you are Right Brain or Left Brain

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Saw an interesting movie last nite, ‘The Lake House’, with Sandra Bullock & Keanu Reeves. It used a fascinating concept where the two people are separated by two years and connect via a ‘time warp’ letter box, the lake house and a scrawny dog called Jack. Time & timing in relationship was obviously the central theme?

The Lake House

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Having spent a couple of weeks on holiday with my friend and her kids, it is still fresh in my consciousness about how children are, i.e. usually spontaneous! Everything is lived in the moment and how they feel is expressed readily and usually without any filters, as any worn out parent will tell you!  Becoming adult seems like a long, boring process of removing ourselves from our spontaneous feelings. So many of us walk around not really knowing what the truth is for us emotionally.

Anne Geddes cabbages

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I am fascinated with the shift when we meet people for real, with whom we originally connected with virtually. By virtual, I include the phone along with the web. Of course this is what the online dating sites have been struggling with for years – how to make that shift less traumatic and disappointing? I have found from past experiences myself, that a lot of interest and excitement can be generated in connecting with certain people online and on the phone. However when we meet, there is a shift to another level that has not been addressed virtually. Of course the odds are stacked against these levels matching the real, live experience of another or at the very least, offering real potential of connection. If virtual operates through the mind, then we have a lot to catch up with on other levels, when we meeting for real. Often real-ationships have to be reworked from the virtual or in some cases abandoned altogether.

The word virtual used to mean “influencing by physical virtues or capabilities,” from M.L. virtualis, from L. virtus “excellence, potency, efficacy,” lit. “manliness, manhood”. The meaning of “being something in essence or fact, though not in name” is first recorded 1654, probably via sense of “capable of producing a certain effect” (1432). Computer sense of “not physically existing but made to appear by software” is attested from 1959.
The word real however seems to have always meant “relating to things” (esp. property), from O.Fr. reel, from L.L. realisres “matter, thing,” of unknown origin. Meaning “genuine” is recorded from 1559; that of “actually existing” is attested from 1597; sense of “unaffected, no-nonsense” is from 1847. “actual,” from L.

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