Today I am going to review Match.com‘s site Chemistry Relationship Profile Assessment.  I did their assessment a few years ago when researching this business & tried it again today.  I am amazed that most of the large online dating sites, like Chemistry.com, do not mention anything about their relationship assessments on their site, making it easily accessible.  It means you have to sign up to find out the nitty gritty.  Why wouldn’t they have more openness & exposure – do they think that other companies are going to copy them?????

Not having a lot of patience, I find these assessments can be so…….time consuming & so exhausting.  That’s me anyway, how do you feel about them.

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the biggest challenge in matching a couple is to match each individual’s requirement for commitment. The word commit comes from Latin committere “to bring together” from com- “together” & mittere “to put, send”. It seems to be an integral & important ingredient in making any relationship long term and to give it staying power. The big ‘C’ word is what scares a lot of people, particularly men, but if we have nothing binding us together, a relationship will slowly fade away. However the reality is that we all have different ideals and images about what commitment means for us and this is not often addressed.

‘A bride at her second marriage does not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting.’ Helen Rowland

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I saw a great movie this week; it was ‘Shop Girl’ with Steve Martin. It was brilliant and showed extreme examples of emotional distance and intimacy.

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intimate is not just women’s underwear, it is the subtle foundation of any good relationship. The word intimate is defined in the dictionary as pertaining to the inmost character of a thing; fundamental. The word comes from the Latin intimatus “make known, announce, impress,” and intimus “inmost”. It all sounds pretty intense doesn’t it but also so… attractive to be seen by another & accepted, let alone loved! Before moving on from the intimate apparel theme, thought you might enjoy this great photo from Flickr.

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Having spent a couple of weeks on holiday with my friend and her kids, it is still fresh in my consciousness about how children are, i.e. usually spontaneous! Everything is lived in the moment and how they feel is expressed readily and usually without any filters, as any worn out parent will tell you!  Becoming adult seems like a long, boring process of removing ourselves from our spontaneous feelings. So many of us walk around not really knowing what the truth is for us emotionally.

Anne Geddes cabbages

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