asking the big question today, if you are a woman: what do you want from online dating? The gender divide brings a complexity to real life dating & even more so to online dating.

‘The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is “What does a woman want?”‘ Sigmund Freud

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most people are looking for a perfect match, in business or love, in spite of the fact that we all know that perfection doesn’t really exist.  To start with we are not perfect as individuals, yet some of us expect to find ‘perfect’ in a partner?  And some of us have given up not willing to settle for imperfect?  Try the polls below & let me know your position on this question.

The word perfect is from the Latin perfectus meaning “completed”. It implies that it would be all over if we found a perfect match anyway.

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sex sells, so they say. I’m not sure about that although most ad agencies would probably disagree! It certainly makes the world go around as it guarantees that most species on the planet will be perpetuated. In relationships it also provides us humans with an intense level of intimacy, release of pent up energy and a source of lotsa fun! However we all express our sexuality in different ways and have different needs in that area.

There are four broad categories in sexual expression and needs which are as follows:

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we have all experienced chemistry with someone else and in spite of this widespread experience, we are not sure about exactly what it is or how it happens.  Online dating sites try to determine it, because if this element is missing in a relationship, then it may easily fizzle or not happen at all! Everyone knows it by its absence or presence but most have no idea where it comes from. Match.com even created a site called Chemistry.com which attempts to determine this element in a dating site. The site is based on Dr Helen Fisher’s research into why people are attracted to each other. The thing I notice about all the theories about chemistry between people is that what is often not recognized is that chemistry is a different sort of experience for different sorts of folks. It seems there is even a movie around called The Chemistry of Dating.

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Love and relationships = risk. This is enough to turn some people off even setting out on this adventure. Some after experiencing the losses & costs may alter their behavior so as to minimize the loss & the transformation that calls itself Love. However like any great adventure these journeys are not to be missed or even to be minimized in their experience. Any good explorer or adventurer would tell you that the unknown carries with it inherent risks and no guarantees but would also encourage you to prepare and proceed so as not to miss the experience (one of the greatest that Life offers).

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