yep that’s right the scientists have discovered that a broken heart really does hurt, so now we are all vindicated!  You are now officially allowed to moan, scream & cry when you have a broken heart because you really are hurting!  (I’ve found chocolate to have wonderful healing effects for this particular ailment!)  This very pertinent revelation came from an article in the Telegraph called Why a Broken Heart Really does Hurt compiled from research done by the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

“I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken — and I’d rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.”  Margaret Mitchell

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unfortunately some people exude toxicity i.e., negativity in huge buckets (my interpretation) and sometimes when we are with them we can pick up leakage or spillage, deliberate or not. Toxic is an interesting word & basically means poison originally from Latin ‘toxicus’ and has something to do with the poison used on arrows. (This brings the image of the penetration value of some toxic people!) If we care about someone and want to be with them or see them, then that negative poison seeps through the permeable membrane that exists between us. Our borders are down with someone we care about & so this negativity can affect us. I unwittingly fell victim to this during the week and it took me a few days to come back to myself. I guess unwittingly was the operative word, as if I had been rational I would have not ventured to this meeting.

“I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.” David Bissonette

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The boundaries of where one thing finishes and another thing starts are endings and beginnings respectively. On some level they just identify the outskirts of one thing and another and we like to call them different names. Today we are all coming to the end of a calendar year and the beginning of another. Some of us may also find ourselves involved in endings & beginnings in relationships and other assorted human activities. I call it transitioning, just like vacationing but possibly a little more challenging! What is most difficult for the majority of us is letting go of one thing and waiting or jumping into the next thing. Then again there are some of us who leap easily and forget about the past readily. There is a middle path somewhere between the two, knowing that the flow of movement and change are part of our human lot and that if things remain the same they are also liable to become stagnant i.e. lose their life & smell pretty bad (just like stagnant water)!

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do you ever find yourself circling around the heart of a matter, finding it difficult to get a definite connection to what is going on in your mind or feelings? It usually shows up as a soft fluffy cloud that seems to have settled on your brain.

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how can we be ourselves and still enjoy successful relationships? One of the biggest issues I have found is that we need to define our boundaries in relationships. The dictionary meaning of the word boundary is ‘something that indicates a border or limit’. Everything in nature is defined by a boundary and this keeps entities intact, true to their integrity and able to function as they were meant. The smallest cell is an example of this process.

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