Review of Perfectmatch.com’s Relationship Assessment

Today I am back to reviewing the online dating sites with the focus on Perfectmatch.com’s Duet.  Their claims on the website are as per below:

“Finality is death. Perfection is finality. Nothing is perfect. There are lumps in it, said the Philosopher.” James Stephens

The Duet® Total Compatibility System identifies the essential elements of your personality.  Written and developed by Dr. Pepper Schwartz and the Perfectmatch.com team, the Duet® Total Compatibility System is the only system of its kind. Duet® doesn’t just match people just on similar character traits. It actually describes and explains complete personality types. And, our unique test is the only one grounded in research on the individual characteristics that matter, including traits your partner should share and which ones should be different. Duet® has proven to be the most sophisticated and effective than any romantic matching tool on or off the Internet.

The questionnaire did not take that long to complete, or is that I am getting really good & fast at doing these things???  It held my attention & I was able to move through it reasonably quickly.

“Have no fear of perfection-you’ll never reach it.” Salvador Dali

• Romantic Impulsivity: Here’s where we determine the level of romantic risk you’re comfortable taking. For example, people at one end of the spectrum would make a romantic commitment based on little information. Those at the other end of the spectrum would insist on getting to know a potential partner for a long period of time before making a commitment They want to be be very, very sure of that person’s suitability. The answers to this series of questions will help us determine where you fall on the spectrum.
• Self-Nurturing: This characteristic measures the way you nurture your emotional needs. Some people seek comfort from the significant person in their life when they are hurt or need positive reinforcement. Others prefer to deal with their problems without outside help. The answers to these questions will determine your pattern of Emotional Sustenance, and will help us identify someone who will complement your style.
• Emotionality: The following questions evaluate how you usually react under conditions of anxiety or conflict or at emotionally important moments. These questions help us understand who’s right for you based upon whether you are intensely expressive or more reserved.

• Personal Energy: Your personal intensity and pace with which you approach life really affect the sorts of people that you are compatible with. Your energy level and intensity when it comes to work, play, and love are important factors in identifying this aspect of your personality.

• Outlook: This portion of our compatibility test looks at your outlook. Your expectations about life and the people you meet are critical to finding your perfect match. It is important to know whether you are a “glass half empty” or a “glass half full” kind of person when we identify the best potential perfect matches for you.

• Predictability: Here’s where we determine the extent to which you take comfort in familiarity. Do you prefer a life of treasured habits, places, and people that are tried and true? Or, do you thrive on innovation, seeking out new places and adventures and engaging with a variety of people and experiences?

• Flexibility: Are you flexible about whether people are on time or not, whether plans fall through, how your partner acts on any given day, or even what is the best way to raise a child? Or are you sure that things should be done a certain way or feel uncomfortable if plans change unpredictably? By understanding how attached you are to order and consistency, we will have a critical piece of information as we identify your perfect matches.

• Decision Making Style: This is a critical factor in determining relationship compatibility. It’s all about how you share or gather your power. You may prefer to let someone direct emotional issues and everyday decisions. Or you may resist anyone leading but yourself. Or you might also seek a more collaborative relationship style. It’s important to be honest about where you feel most comfortable. Knowing yourself well on this factor will make the search for the right partner much more successful.

“The bottom line is that (a) people are never perfect, but love can be, (b) that is the one and only way that the mediocre and vile can be transformed, and (c) doing that makes it that. We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” Tom Robbins

How did I score?  Good question, brief & to the point as per below:

Your Similarity Test Results – RAOV  Risk Taker, High Energy, Optimistic, Seeks Variety
You are an unleashed personality. You hold nothing back and are willing to put it all on the line, act quickly and expect success. If you fail, you expect success the next time – or certainly, eventually. You also like change, because a changing environment means new opportunity, another chance or an even better mate. Too much predictability in life scares you. You don’t want a partner that will hold you back, so you probably should look for someone who is a forward charging person like yourself. At the very least, not timid.

Pretty simplistic profile which is partly true but does not cover the complexity of me & my relationships.  Without boring you by quoting their feedback. they seem to cover both a similar match & an opposite match???  This obviously makes them right whichever way you bend, but I wondered why Dr Pepper Schwartz & her team cant’ make up her mind on this one?????

Last but not least the latest article by Dr Pepper Schwartz (which to me seems like a bit of a hard sell & somewhat patronizing as it discounts the strengthening of character that develops when someone faces any challenge alone????) states:

Seven Billion Reasons to Find Love Now!
Dr. Pepper Schwartz We all are aware we’re going through a rough period in our country. The economy stands on the abyss, ($700 billion – incredible!), home values continue to drop, mortgages are harder to get then ever, much less support and gas prices have become a line item in everyone’s budget.  It’s hard to face these challenges. But, the worst possible way is to face them alone.

I would rate Perfectmatch’s Duet 7 out of 10 – the feedback about matching after completion of the test lets the whole system down.  However it wasn’t too hard to get the questionnaire completed.  I figure its more fun to check out the astrological horoscope to see what the individual needs for a good match & then look at the relationship composite chart to see how the match really will be experienced.  For speed & accuracy this is hard to beat & this tool has been practised for centuries.  What has been your experience with Perfectmatch, let me know in the comments?

I will leave you with a funny video by Michael Gelbart – The Dating Doctor.  Hysterical…. enjoy…..

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