January 4th, 2009

Misrepresentation

» Posted in Love, Relationships, humor, online dating, social networks at 1:00 pm

Recently reading about the MySpace ruling last month on the MySpace suicide case in CNet news. The article which was titled MySpace ruling could lead to jail for lying online daters quoted about the impacts of this ruling on the web:

Web site terms of service, which end users universally ignore, suddenly have teeth: violating them is a federal hacking offense, punishable with jail time. The days of being able to freely lie on the Web could be coming to an end. This could mean serious trouble for people who lie about their age, weight, or marital status in their online dating profiles.

There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics. Benjamin Disraeli

Misrepresentation or lying is a big problem in relationships but particularly online.

Tact is to lie about others as you would have them lie about you. Oliver Herford

When I was recently looking at AstraMatch blog analytics, I noted that the keyword that brought the most people to this site was the word intimacy. I note that the word intimate comes from Medieval French & is a back-formation from the word intimation meaning the “action of making known”. How can we be known if we are not being real?

Relationships can’t survive without honesty between partners. Relationships can’t really start without honesty between partners.

The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception. Friedrich Nietzsche

I wonder how online behavior would change if we were faced with threat to our freedom from the law if we were not authentic. Not sure how this could be enforced when misrepresentation or lying is so common in the real world. Recently it has been exposed that many businesses, banks etc lie even in their business models????

Women lie about their age; men lie about their income. William Feather

Web 2.0 encourages authenticity and social networks provide us all with the opportunity but still we find that people still lie….. As with the banks recent demise, we then find it hard to trust. Trust is the golden thread that connects us with each other & Life. How can we develop trust with each other & in our lives & relationships.

If you do not wish to be lied to, do not ask questions. If there were no questions, there would be no lies. B.Traven

Comedy & humor are great ways to be more honest as truth can be exposed with less discomfort whilst we are all having a good laugh. How do you support authenticity in your relationships? Let me know in the comments below, I would appreciate your ideas.

I will leave you with a funny video by Eddie Izzard, a favorite comedian of mine, where he talks about lying machines. Enjoy…..

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Date posted: Sunday, January 4th, 2009 1:00 pm | Under category: Love, Relationships, humor, online dating, social networks
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pemo

This is a very disturbing account of misrepresentation. I would suggest that you contact Myspace & report this troubled family. At the minimum they may be removed from Myspace and you can rest assured that you have done what you can to set the record straight. Does anyone know online databases or forums that warn people about others who are misrepresenting themselves on social networks & online dating sites? Please post a comment with link below. Thanks

deaperado

I HAVE KNOWN OF A MOTHER FOR THE PAST 10 YRS THAT HAS ENCOURAGED HER SON AND HER LESBAIN DAUGHTER TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET , HER DAUGHTER HAS A MYSPACE BLOG THAT STATES SHE IS STRAIGHT,COLLEGE EDUCATED AND LOOKING FOR MEN. SHE GETS WHATEVER SHE CAN FROM THESE MEN UNTIL THE LIES CANT HOLD WATER ANYMORE. HER CONVICTED CHILD ABUSING SON COMES ACROSS AS A YOUNGER MAN LOOKING FOR OLDER WOMEN TO GET WHAT HE CAN. THEY EVEN HAD THE NERVE TO BRING A MAN THAT HER DAUGHTER HAD SUCKERD OVER TO MY HOUSE TO MEET MY WIFE AND I IN DETROIT. I TRIED TO WARN HIM IN A QUIET WAY BUT HE WOULDNT BELIEVE ME I FEEL SO GUILTY KNOWING WHAT THIS FAMILY DOES . I WISH THERE WAS SOME TYPE OF DATABASE FACTS LIKE THIS COULD BE REPORTED. I WOULD BE THE FIRST ONE TO TAKE A STAND AGAINST EVIL PEOPLE LIKE THIS. I KNOW WE ARE ALL ADULTS AND NOT CHILDREN BUT IT WOULD BE NICE IF WE COULD HAVE RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER.