online dating exhaustion

technology had definitely changed our lives & our relationships.  Most people have tried online dating or met people through social networks.  However there have recently been articles focused on the failures of online sites to deliver good matches or any near half decent matches for users.  It’s a different world online & there are many new & different skills that need to be developed to be successful in whatever it is that we are focusing & trying to accomplish.  The human factor & chemistry are key in dating & maybe online dating sites have not been really successful at providing platforms that include this key piece?

“When I had no work and all this time on my hands, I couldn’t get a date. Now that I have women banging on my door, I have no time to answer it.” Scott Wolf

I was reading a Wall Street Journal article titled Scary New Dating Site: the Real World that looks at people who are meeting others offline & being more successful with dating:

Sometimes it works. You probably know at least one couple who met online. I know half a dozen. But there’s something that’s easy to lose sight of: These happy folks aren’t typical. Most people never meet their soul mate online. “It’s exhausting,” says Kate Wachs, a Chicago psychologist and author of “Relationships for Dummies.” “People burn out really fast.”
Before you even get started, you have to create your marketing pitch—get some decent photos, write an engaging profile, sometimes take a personality test. Then you scan hundreds, maybe thousands, of profiles and compose emails to the people you want to meet. If all this doesn’t wear you out, the actual dates will.
That’s, of course, if anyone bothers to email back. A lawsuit filed in December and seeking class-action status in U.S. District Court in Dallas alleges more than half the profiles on Match.com are “inactive, fake or fraudulent.” Match.com general manager Mandy Ginsberg says the site’s full-time fraud-prevention team works to identify and block fake profiles, including IP addresses that are in specific countries where fraud is prevalent or that try to set up multiple profiles. There are 1.7 million paid subscribers on the site, Ms. Ginsberg says, and fraud happens to very few of them.
“Online dating is a lot of time for very little return,” says Jeff Koleba, 31, a Manhattan consumer-brand manager. At one point, he had active profiles on five dating sites. He says he found it draining to come home each night and study profiles, draft clever emails to the women he was attracted to—and then often receive no response. He recently quit online dating.
Now, Mr. Koleba tries to meet women when he is out and about—taking improvisational comedy classes, playing on a co-ed intramural soccer team, exercising with a runners group. “It’s easy to talk, because we already share a common interest,” he says. “So at least you’ll usually get a decent conversation, even if it winds up going nowhere dating-wise.”

“I’m dating a woman now who, evidently, is unaware of it.” Garry Shandling

They even give some tips for confronting the ‘real world’ of live dating:

How can you meet more people offline? Ask everyone you know for help. Be specific about what you are looking for, though, so you’ll only get introductions to people who might actually be good matches.
When you volunteer with your local alumni club, fund-raising event or political campaign, sign up for the job that gives you an excuse to call others.
Become the designated photographer at weddings, bar mitzvahs and other events. Shooting video of Uncle Phil’s 90th birthday requires you to wander around and talk to people without being self-conscious.
Put down the device. Get your head out of your smartphone, computer or iPad. You won’t seem approachable if no one can see your face.
Smile more. Pretend you’re on vacation, which is a time when most people are more relaxed, seem more approachable and talk more to strangers.
Travel in business class. People are less grumpy, more chatty. And there are free drinks.
Move to a neighborhood or a building that seems to have lots of people you’d like to meet.
Borrow a cute puppy and walk it someplace with sidewalk cafés. Or take it to the dog run. But be sure to own up to the fact that it isn’t your dog: You don’t want to get caught in a lie before your first date.

“I’ve been dating since I was fifteen. I’m exhausted. Where is he?” Kristin Davis

It appears that it’s a whole new world out there of live dating.  So realign your compass & sharpen up your skills at meeting people whilst living your life.  Well there is no membership fee & you make your own rules & TOS (terms of service).

I’d like to leave you with a funny video on dating.  Enjoy….

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