All right, you know that you’re hot, so it’s no question that filtering out the wrong types of dates is becoming a major inconvenience. How many pitiful conversations with Mister or Misses Wrong must you have to realize that certain types are just not your type?
Are you a woman annoyed by guys that use abbreviations or who can’t spell? Are you a guy annoyed at tweens, teens, and “ppl dat talk like dis FTW?” Then it’s time to take a stand against all this free attention. Refuse to give free attention to people you don’t like! You don’t have to be a mean guy or girl you ignore a person, or even put someone on “block.” All it means is that you don’t have time to get to know this person, or spend three hours gently explaining to him or her why that is.
Use Your Profile Picture for Filtering
You can actually get rid of a number of wrong types by posting a full face and body shot of yourself. If you are a certain race, or a certain body shape, then you can instantly send a message out to the community explaining what you are. This will get rid of any “haters” right away.
Some singles have found that posting specific scenes in your photos can actually help to filter out wrong types. If you love sports then wearing a sports shirt will help scare away people that don’t root for the home team. If you love tattoos and piercings then showing a picture of your face will scare all those conservatives off your profile page.
However, don’t take photo filtering to an extreme and post a picture of a frown or angry squint. This could scare away the right type of person, who’s now thinking you’re impossible to please.
Use Your Profile Description for Filtering
Next, filter out the wrong types using your profile description. State precisely what you’re looking for, and the types of guys or girls that turn you off. Don’t rationalize why you’re making this request, just explain it is your preference. (There is no argument to this) Apologize for your conciseness, but do not sound wishy-washy or else many users will try to change your mind.
Reemphasize your interests in your description, which will filter out most, and then emphasize your dislikes, so that the others will get the hint. You can also list your lifestyle habits, favorite flicks, ideal dates, religion or philosophy, personal questions, and other revelations, which will show your dates the type of person you are.
The main idea here is that by showing everyone who you really are and what you want, you can actually convince your non-compatibles that it’s not even worth trying. It may help to think back to failed relationships and the qualities of your ex that most irritated you. List the types of traits and characteristics that you really want and leave no room for possibilities. (Some people figure, if you don’t specify one way or the other, you are open to the idea…this may not be true at all!)
The more specific your profile requests, the more compatible your repliers will be. Remember, not all users pay attention to preferences you select from a window. It may be best emphasize the likes and dislikes in your profile description with a personal commentary.
Last but not least, if you are tired of filtering out the wrong types of dates yourself, remove your profile from search (but continuing to keep it accessible) and start actively looking for someone who fits you. If you are the searcher, rather than the one waiting, it may drastically improve your compatible connections.