is beauty skin deep, apparently not for OKCupid?

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I read an article this week in BitchMedia which exposed a new move on OKCupid that is a bit disconcerting to say the least. Apparently OKCupid now know who is ‘most attractive’ and are segregating users by most & least attractive categories. Gee I want to know how OKCupid have access to knowing what I consider attractive or anyone for that matter????

“Not being beautiful was the true blessing… Not being beautiful forced me to develop my inner resources. The pretty girl has a handicap to overcome.” Golda Meir

Anyway the post is called ‘OkCupid has less-than-OK policies. Especially if you’re “ugly” ‘ by Kelsey Wallace:

Bitch tipster alert! According to a trusted source (one of our sharpy-sharp readers),
1. OkCupid, the popular (and free) online dating site, has a semi-secret policy that favors those who have been deemed the most attractive. Say what!? The policy discriminates against those deemed less attractive for whatever reason (bad photo, profile misspelling, etc.). Those in the dreaded bottom 50% presumably do not have access to potential matches in the top 50%, even if they match up in other areas beyond the physical (which, let’s remember, is rated based solely on online profile data). OkCupid is segregating the groups, which seems counter-productive to, you know, DATING.
2. The policy reinforces the notion that hot people deserve love and happiness and “ugly” people should just get used to being alone. For evidence of this, just check out some of the offensive language in that email! For those who have been granted “attractive” status, “Suddenly, the world is your oyster.” What the hell kind of world were they in before? Oh, I know, the one where ugly people are barred from seeing pretty people.
3. The policy makes dating decisions on the users’ behalf without considering personal preferences. Sure, I learned in my Sociology 101 class that people typically end up partnering with other similarly-attractive people; I’d bet many of you have read the same. However, we’ve all got different preferences when it comes to physical attractiveness, and just because someone hasn’t gotten as many click-thrus as someone else doesn’t mean that users won’t find that person attractive. It’s patronizing to think that OkCupid would decide who’s hot and who’s not, especially when hotness is completely subjective.
4. The policy is kept secret (unless you’re attractive!). When you sign up for an OkCupid account, you are not tipped off to this segregating policy in any way, shape, or form.

“Beauty in not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.” Kahlil Gibran

It’s quite amazing what can be obtained from data these days, well at least OKCupid’s data???? They can obviously discover all our individual ideas of beauty and then match them up. I’m sure they can also integrate into this data, the beauty of the soul & heart to ensure good matches????? NOT Sorry for falling into sarcasm but I have never heard such rot in all my life. It appears that the love of data has gotten a bit out of hand now at OKCupid. The other problem that they have failed to cover, is that we all have different values in our choice of partners. I have a very high need for beauty around me with a strong aesthetic sense so that ugly environments can make me feel sick. However in my choice of partners beauty or how they look has never had a very high value. In fact in my experience as a woman I have often found men who are extremely good looking are not as available to connect as a friend. I find they can often be narcissistic and not very sensitive to others. So this wouldn’t work for me at all. I have known women who are not what I would call attractive superficially but have such an attractive personality that men find them incredibly sexy & attractive. OKCupid this is a FAIL!

I’ll leave you with a funny ad which identifies the problem that beauty without brains often doesn’t work. Enjoy…..