change is a constant and needs to be taken into account in every relationship. Nothing stays the same, no one stays the same – we are constantly unveiling our potential. This is of course problematic when matching a couple because where they are at the start may not be where they are at the finish! They may be happy to be together but if their rate of change is different or they change in different ways, what can be done.

“Change is inevitable-except from a vending machine.” Robert C. Gallagher

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are you a rule breaker or a follow-the-rules type of person in a relationship? These days this is a complex question because there are also different types/options in rules which appeal to different types of people. The origins of the word rule meaning “principle or maxim governing conduct,” are from the Old French riule and from the Latin regula meaning “straight stick, bar, ruler, pattern”. Humans are generally not ‘straight‘ due to the complexity of our emotions, minds & bodies. However we have to live together and most rules exist to support us in survival socially.

“It is a good idea to obey all the rules when you’re young just so you’ll have the strength to break them when you’re old.” Mark Twain

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