interview with traditional Irish matchmaker I

Here is the first interview with traditional Irish matchmaker Tom Fenney.  You may be interested in listening to the second interview with Gus Martyn here.

The transcripts for the interviews are here

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interview with traditional Irish matchmaker II

here is the second interview with the traditional Irish matchmaker Gus Martyn.

You might enjoy listening to the first interview with Tom Fenney too here

The transcripts for the interviews are located here

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how secure do you feel?

security is usually an issue in any relationship, whether we base everything on that goal or whether we don’t care about it all.  It is difficult to match a couple with the same attitude towards security and this can prove to create difficulties down the line.

When I was young I read Alan Watt’s book ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity’ which was a brilliant read!  Alan wrote: ‘What we have forgotten is that thoughts and words are conventions, and that it is fatal to take conventions too seriously.’  Maybe I should stop writing now, while I’m, ahead???

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the competitive urge

how competitive are you in a partnership?  This is an important issue for matching couples because we all have individual requirements for outlet of the competitive urge in intimate relationships.  It’s OK to express unbridled competition in business and work relationships, although even there too much competition can destroy any trust or teamwork in a business or organization.  The Beijing Olympic Games made me think of about competitiveness where it serves the athletes and how it serves us or not in the sphere of relationships.

“Focus on competition has always been a formula for mediocrity.” Daniel Burrus

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extrovert or introvert matches?

are you an extrovert or an introvert and how do you match with others? This is an important question that needs to be clarified and understood before matching with another person. Carl Jung focused on these two types of personality in his psychological work and these days many people have done the Myers Briggs personality assessment and discovered whether they are classed as an extrovert or introvert. The words themselves come from Latin from extra “outside”, intro “inward” and vertere “to turn”. Briefly an extrovert tends to focus their consciousness on the outer world and introverts tend to focus on their inner world.

Guy Kawasaki posted a comment stating that he was introverted on Twitter this week which sent ripples through the blogging community. Mashable did a poll on extroversion & introversion which you can view here

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