how funny do you rate your partner?
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humor - do you find your partner funny? Does your partner find you funny? How important is this quality for you in relationships? Sharing a similar sense of humor is imperative for a successful match between people. I feel that to be able to laugh at each other & at oneself is a necessary to glide more easily through relationship & life. Laughter brings us energy, helps us let go & relax & generally brings joy! Laughter brings our bodies & souls into a very open place (similar to crying), which means we can connect with others more authentically.
The word humor has interesting origins originating from “any of the four body fluids” (blood, phlegm, choler, and melancholy or black bile) whose relative proportions were thought to determine state of mind. This led to a sense of “mood, temporary state of mind” (first recorded 1525); the sense of “amusing quality, funniness” is first recorded 1682, probably via sense of “whim, caprice” (1565).
“Our five senses are incomplete without the sixth — a sense of humor.” Unknown
I was reading an article online about the issue between men & women’s differences regarding humor in attraction. It had been backed up by a humor researcher (wot a great job to have - I wonder if he gets to laugh a lot?) In summary it seems that women look for men who can make them laugh whereas men appreciate a woman who laughs at their jokes? Now I understand the lack of boy’s attention when I was a teenager because I love to laugh & also crack jokes myself. That’s solved that mystery???
“I have a fine sense of the ridiculous, but no sense of humor.” Edward Albee

Wikipedia mentions also that humor depends on culture, geographical location, maturity, education & context. These broad categories are certainly important as a basic foundation when matching people’s sense of humor. However there are also within these there are predispositions to certain types of humor.
“Humor is the first gift to perish in a foreign language.” Virginia Woolf

According to the Online Entymology Dictionary there are the following forms of humor:
- Humor which aims at discovery created by observation
- Wit which aims at throwing light created by surprise
- Satire which aims at amendment created by accentuation
- Sarcasm which aims at creating pain created by inversion
- Invective which aims to discredit created by direct statement
- Irony which aims at exclusiveness created by mystification
- Cynicism which aims at self justification created by exposure of nakedness
- Sardonic which aims at self relief created by pessimism
This is a pretty comprehensive list to which I could do no better justice.
“Humor is emotional chaos remembered in tranquility.” James Thurber

However I believe there are four very general senses of humor & those who appreciate them. My types are based on an astrological foundation but I won’t confound you with those terms. This is how they may look without the jargon (my own ‘comedy of errors’):
- Idealistic humor which mainly plays with the use of words & connections eg wisecracks, repartee
- Emotional humor which mainly plays with feeling experiences eg. sitcoms & situational humor
- Physical humor which mainly plays with physical experiences eg. slapstick, clowning
- Passionate humor which mainly plays with the imagination & fantasy eg. cartoons, satire
Obviously if we have the same value in the kind of humor that we appreciate as our partner, we match easily with no problem. Idealistic humor may find it difficult to laugh or enjoy Emotional humor and the same goes for Physical humor & Passionate humor. However Idealist humor will find also find it difficult with Physical humor, although if other factors are strong in the match then they can learn to tolerate & appreciate each other’s sense of humor. This would also be the case with Emotional humor & Passionate humor. However Idealistic humor & Passionate humor are much more easily able to relate to each other’s sense of humor along with Emotional & Physical humor.
“Humor is just another defense against the universe.” Mel Brooks
Postnote: Great post on MoreIntelligentLife.com on the science of humor - interesting!
I will leave you with a very funny video of a couple & their first married dance together. Enjoy………

