timing is a crucial piece in matchmaking! It is important to identify at the outset whether it is good or bad timing for an individual to have a relationship. Also there are different times in our lives when we want different things from relationships & in a partner. If we manage to find someone who also wants similar things at the same time then we can make the match really work!

‘I love the idea of “the one” but I actually believe that there isn’t a Miss Right. There are 12,000 Miss Rights out there and it’s all timing.’ Matthew Perry

[Read more...]

success means different things for different people and it is great if both partners in a relationship have similar definitions. The word success meaning “result, outcome,” comes from the Latin successus ‘an advance, succession, happy outcome’. The combined effort of more than one person, can certainly contribute to easier, more sustained success than one person solo. Success can be very tangible & solid or it can be much more subtle depending on the type of success that is desired. There are four main categories of success are:

[Read more...]

freedom is a key need for every person, relationship or nation to evolve and develop. Inherent in freedom is respect for oneself and others. Basic in our interactions with others, we need to honor them as we want to be honored. This means taking responsibility for ourselves and our actions and giving others the opportunity to do the same.

‘We must recognize that the suffering of one person or one nation is the suffering of humanity. That the happiness of one person or nation is the happiness of humanity.’ HH Dalai Lama

[Read more...]

the biggest challenge in matching a couple is to match each individual’s requirement for commitment. The word commit comes from Latin committere “to bring together” from com- “together” & mittere “to put, send”. It seems to be an integral & important ingredient in making any relationship long term and to give it staying power. The big ‘C’ word is what scares a lot of people, particularly men, but if we have nothing binding us together, a relationship will slowly fade away. However the reality is that we all have different ideals and images about what commitment means for us and this is not often addressed.

‘A bride at her second marriage does not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting.’ Helen Rowland

[Read more...]

sex sells, so they say. I’m not sure about that although most ad agencies would probably disagree! It certainly makes the world go around as it guarantees that most species on the planet will be perpetuated. In relationships it also provides us humans with an intense level of intimacy, release of pent up energy and a source of lotsa fun! However we all express our sexuality in different ways and have different needs in that area.

There are four broad categories in sexual expression and needs which are as follows:

[Read more...]