menage a trois

Having another person involved in a relationship in any capacity immediately changes the dynamic between two people. This can be a positive experience or it can shatter a couple’s trust, depending upon the attitude of the individuals involved. Some of the possibilities are:

• When a relationship’s energy or good feelings are dumbed down by time & habit, one or both parties may venture outside the relationship & have an affair with another

• When a couple shares their living space with a family member or friend, that person may become connected to the relationship dynamics

• When there are problems in a relationship, a couple may seek advice, counsel or coaching from a third party in a professional capacity

• Sometimes a child may affect a couple’s dynamic

• When one partner or both have a close, confidante friendship (not romantic but disclosing) outside the relationship

Some of the effects for a couple being connected to another person are:

1. New awareness and valuation of the relationship renewing commitment & promise for a couple
2. Undermining of basic trust between two people through negativity about the other
3. Expands the horizons & interests of both people in the relationship
4. May challenge bad or negative habits that occur unconsciously between a couple
5. Better awareness and confidence for each individual within the partnership
6. Re instill value for a partner due to awareness that they may leave — this is highly personal & is not a generally recommended cure for relationship ailments

The bottom line and question that needs to be asked by the couple about others connected to their relationship:

Does this person help build trust between us or undermine it?

I’ll leave you with a cute video about Peanut Butter & Jelly and all its variants.  Yum enjoy…..

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