express yourself

We all experience the world through different lenses and therefore express ourselves in different ways. We express ourselves through our hearts, through what we are passionate about and everything we love to do. Hopefully the vehicle is career and our creative pursuits. We can even express ourselves through the joy of having children. Self expression is important for everyone’s happiness and contentment in life and in relationships. It comes from the very core of our being. Therefore when matching couples it is necessary to make sure that each person can express themselves. There are four general types of categories in how we express ourselves.

'Marriage should be a duet - when one sings, the other claps.' Joe Murray

1. Intellectual people who experience the world & express themselves through ideas & communication
2. Feeling people who experience the world & express themselves through feelings
3. Intuitive people who experience the world & express themselves through visions & inspirations
4. Pragmatic people who experience the world & express themselves through the senses and the practical world

'Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.' Alexander Smith

When we are with others some combinations of these types are easier than others in allowing or supporting each other to express themselves. Like types easily understand, support & appreciate each other. When there is difficulty with different types of expression, it can result in general misunderstanding. Some modes of expression may contribute to lack of appreciation and devaluing of the other. In the worst case scenario where one person is lacking confidence or is very insecure, then there can be attempts to repress the other mode of expression.

• Intellectual people may find it difficult to understand Feeling people, although both types have a lot to learn from each other. If other conditions in the relationship support this learning and don’t contribute to further confusion and misunderstanding. This is one of the most challenging combinations.
• Intellectual people however can more easily relate to Intuitive people as they are not threatened or challenged by each other’s mode of expression.
• Intellectual people have some difficulties with Pragmatic people but can develop creative ways & means of understanding each other.

• Feeling people can also find creative ways of expressing themselves with Intuitive people but there can be challenges.
• Feeling people easily express themselves with Pragmatic people although their modes are different, they have platforms of commonality.
• Intuitive people also have challenges with Pragmatic people and there can be general misunderstanding. However if other conditions support the relationship they can learn from each other’s modes of expression.

It is truly a wonderful experience when we experience being able to express ourselves to or in front of another. We can feel truly understood & this heightens the wonderful & joyous experience of self expression. Its important to get a good match with a partner!

Have a look at this funny video of Indian ad about choice, enjoy .....

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