The boundaries of where one thing finishes and another thing starts are endings and beginnings respectively. On some level they just identify the outskirts of one thing and another and we like to call them different names. Today we are all coming to the end of a calendar year and the beginning of another. Some of us may also find ourselves involved in endings & beginnings in relationships and other assorted human activities. I call it transitioning, just like vacationing but possibly a little more challenging! What is most difficult for the majority of us is letting go of one thing and waiting or jumping into the next thing. Then again there are some of us who leap easily and forget about the past readily. There is a middle path somewhere between the two, knowing that the flow of movement and change are part of our human lot and that if things remain the same they are also liable to become stagnant i.e. lose their life & smell pretty bad (just like stagnant water)!

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are we better or worse if we stay in relationships or marriages, for ‘better or worse’? The great benefit about commitment to another person, is that we feel safe enough to expose more vulnerable aspects of ourselves. This benefits a couple because that allows for more intimacy between the two people. That is the heart of a good relationship!

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having never looked like Barbie, I always wondered what it would be like to be known as a ‘beauty’. It seems that most of the standards we have about beauty are hard calls for most of us, but we keep trying, no matter how sane we are???? What is that about??? When I was at high school, I was chosen to be best friends with the most popular & generally acclaimed ‘beautiful’ girl. She was renown at our school because she had even done a few ads for TV. And I figured that I must have been no competition for her, so pretty safe, cause I was what my mother termed an ‘ugly duckling’! I guess I listened to all her exploits cause I didn’t have any & I gained a side popularity with all the boys, cause they wanted to know stuff about her. We had a bit of a bust up before we finished high school because she got pregnant & had an abortion, all without telling me. She said later that I was too naive & couldn’t have taken it! Needless to say we never really patched the friendship up again, as I got to finally see how I looked through her eyes & that she had been having a friendship with me but watching what she told me – it doesn’t breed a lot of trust, at least from my side! I like the one liner below, it says a lot!

‘If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy her friends?’ Stephen Wright

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I’ve always believed that communication (which of course entails listening as well as talking), is like the rope bridge that bridges the gap between people. This brings us into relationship with each other. However I happened to read a Harvard Business Review the other day and focused on an interview with psychologist John M. Gottman called ‘Making Relationships Work’.

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Apologies for not posting last week, I have been ill and the computer was technologically challenged so that I was not able to use it for most of the week.

Hope you enjoy this post which has been doing the rounds of the Internet, hysterical! Thanks to Flickr for funny kid’s photos!

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